{"id":641,"date":"2014-11-28T18:24:50","date_gmt":"2014-11-28T18:24:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.klauskpsichologo.lt\/?p=641"},"modified":"2026-09-02T07:49:46","modified_gmt":"2026-09-02T07:49:46","slug":"gedejimas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.klauskpsichologo.lt\/en\/gedejimas\/","title":{"rendered":"Ged\u0117jimas \u2013 meil\u0117s kalba be adresato"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Gedim tik to, k\u0105 myl\u0117jome. Tik to, kas mums r\u016bp\u0117jo. Tai gali b\u016bti ne tik \u017emogus, kuris i\u0161\u0117jo visam laikui. Kartais li\u016bdim d\u0117l santyki\u0173, kurie nutr\u016bko. D\u0117l darbo, kur\u012f pasirinkom palikti. D\u0117l galimybi\u0173, kuriomis nebepasinaudosim. D\u0117l vaikyst\u0117s, kurios netur\u0117jom. Kartais net sunku \u012fvardyti \u2013 tarsi \u0161irdyje ka\u017ekas \u0161aukiasi, bet net ne\u017einom, kas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ged\u0117jimas \u2013 tai meil\u0117s kalba, kuriai neliko kur nueiti. Ji stovi prie dur\u0173, kurios nebeatsidaro, ir vis tiek laukia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Netektis \u2013 ne tik mirtis<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mes da\u017enai galvojam, kad ged\u0117jimas yra tik po laidotuvi\u0173. Bet praradimai b\u016bna labai \u012fvair\u016bs. Kai kurie tyl\u016bs ir nematomi, bet ne ma\u017eiau svarb\u016bs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Gedim:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><br><p class=\"\" data-start=\"860\" data-end=\"925\">santyki\u0173, kuriuose nebebus galimyb\u0117s pasakyti to, ko nei\u0161dr\u012fsome;<\/p><br><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><br><p class=\"\" data-start=\"928\" data-end=\"963\">svajoni\u0173, kurios nepavirto realybe;<\/p><br><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><br><p class=\"\" data-start=\"966\" data-end=\"1011\">t\u0173 savo dali\u0173, kurios netur\u0117jo galimyb\u0117s b\u016bti savimi;<\/p><br><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><br><p class=\"\" data-start=\"1014\" data-end=\"1047\">laiko, kurio nebesugr\u0105\u017einsi.<\/p><br><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Gedim net tada, kai tarsi viskas \u201egerai\u201c. Nes viduje \u017einom \u2013 ka\u017ek\u0105 brangaus praradom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">K\u016bnas taip pat gedi<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kartais atrodo, kad k\u016bnas pats \u017eino, k\u0105 daro. N\u0117ra j\u0117g\u0173. Spaud\u017eia gerkl\u0119. U\u017eeina verksmas be prie\u017easties. Galva sunki. Kartais ir pyktis kyla \u2013 irgi be ai\u0161kios prie\u017easties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ged\u0117jimas ne visada atrodo kaip a\u0161aros. Kartais jis pasirei\u0161kia per tyl\u0105. Per \u012ftamp\u0105 pe\u010diuose. Per t\u0105 jausm\u0105, kad norisi visk\u0105 mesti ir pab\u0117gti kur nors toli.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tai k\u016bnas saugo \u2013 neleid\u017eia vienu metu pajusti per daug. Jis daro tai, k\u0105 moka geriausiai: saugo tave. Net tada, kai nori tik i\u0161verkti visk\u0105 lauk.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Viduje \u2013 daugyb\u0117 bals\u0173<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ged\u0117jimas pa\u017eadina daug vidini\u0173 dali\u0173. Viena verkia. Kita sako: \u201ebaik verkti, gyvenk toliau.\u201c Tre\u010dia kaltina: \u201egal\u0117jai ka\u017ek\u0105 padaryti.\u201c Ketvirta bando u\u017esiimti kuo nors, kad tik nejaustum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tai nat\u016bralu. Visos tos dalys bando pad\u0117ti \u2013 kaip moka. Kai kurios nori apsaugoti nuo skausmo. Kitos \u2013 i\u0161lieti j\u012f iki galo. Ir visos jos laukia, kol bus i\u0161girstos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">K\u0105 darom terapijoje?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kartais praradimo skausmas b\u016bna \u012fstrig\u0119s. Kaip u\u017estrig\u0119s kv\u0117pavimas. Jis kartojasi mintyse, sapnuose, k\u016bne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Terapijoje po truput\u012f kuriam saugi\u0105 erdv\u0119 tam skausmui i\u0161jausti, i\u0161b\u016bti. Naudojam IFS (vidini\u0173 dali\u0173 terapij\u0105), kad gal\u0117tum\u0117m susitikti su tomis savo dalimis, kurios vis dar ne\u0161asi li\u016bdes\u012f, pykt\u012f, kalt\u0119, tu\u0161tum\u0105. Suprasti, k\u0105 jos saugo. Kod\u0117l taip ilgai tyl\u0117jo. Ir k\u0105 i\u0161 tikr\u0173j\u0173 nori pasakyti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Naudojant EMDR (aki\u0173 judesi\u0173 terapij\u0105), galima pad\u0117ti smegenims \u201eperdirbti\u201c tai, kas \u012fstrig\u0119. Lyg \u0161velniai atidaryti langel\u012f \u012f t\u0105 praeities kambar\u012f, kur vis dar tamsu, ir \u012fleisti \u0161viesos. Tai vienas i\u0161 b\u016bd\u0173 nuleisti t\u0105 emocin\u012f sl\u0117g\u012f, kuris spaud\u0117 i\u0161 vidaus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Gali eiti savo tempu<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ged\u0117jimas neturi grafiko. N\u0117ra \u201eper ilgai\u201c ar \u201eper greitai\u201c. N\u0117ra teisingo b\u016bdo. Yra tik j\u016bs\u0173 kelias.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kai esi pasiruo\u0161\u0119s \u2013 galima prad\u0117ti \u0161velniai. Po vien\u0105 \u017eingsn\u012f. Svarbiausia \u2013 nesi viena (-s). Ir net jeigu&nbsp; atrodo, kad turi \u201evisk\u0105 susitvarkyti pati (-s)\u201c, \u017einok \u2013 yra b\u016bd\u0173, kaip \u0161ird\u012f ir k\u016bn\u0105 atpalaiduoti ne kovojant, o \u0161velniai susitinkant su tuo, kas jau seniai laukia d\u0117mesio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Esu psicholog\u0117 R\u016bta Navick\u0117. 5,0 \u2b50\ufe0f i\u0161 148 \u012fvertinim\u0173 (<a href=\"https:\/\/pensight.com\/x\/ruta\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/pensight.com\/x\/ruta\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Pensight<\/a>). 10+ met\u0173 praktikos, Lietuvos traum\u0173 psichologijos asociacijos ir Lietuvos EMDR asociacijos nar\u0117. Dirbu EMDR ir IFS metodais.&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/pensight.com\/x\/ruta\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Jei norisi patyrusio profesionalo \u0161alia, kvie\u010diu \u012f terapij\u0105. 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